He’s Gone . . .

Someone I called friend, died a few days ago. He was a man who touched others by his mere presence. He was a good man. He was an honourable man. I am hurt, I am angry and I am sad. I am sad for myself and for his family and the many, many friends he leaves behind. I am hurt by the suddenness and I am angered by the senselessness.

But it happened. Bad things happen to good people. And good things happen to bad people. Why?   Well . . . why not?

Life is not a balance sheet: If you do X you will receive Y.  No.  Life is a series of accidents that together form a life, your life. And there are no guarantees in life. Each one of your actions will cause a reaction that will (hopefully) be both pleasing and beneficial, allowing you to live your life to the fullest. Oh, there will be setbacks and stumbling blocks that you will have to face throughout your life. How you deal with them will help to form your character.

Your life will impact others every day. It will intersect with others and how you treat them could heavily impact them as well as you. A perfect stranger smiled at me today and it lifted my spirits for a moment. I needed that. I need to remember that. My friend would understand. He had such a generosity of spirit, of giving. I need to do that. I need to forgive and place him gently in my heart and my memories where he will continue to counsel me.  My friend.

He was a good man. He is sorely missed.


31 thoughts on “He’s Gone . . .

  1. Mark Lanesbury

    It is a hard thing to come to terms with such a loss Pam. Never seeming to be fair for so many reasons.
    Love and hugs to you as you touch your journey together and find the beauty in what you shared ❤

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  2. Murphy's Law

    To lose someone you hold dear is such a heartbreaking experience. I am so sorry for the loss you and your friends family are suffering. May all those wonderful memories you have of him soon bring you comfort, and perhaps a laugh at a cherished memory.
    🔹 Ginger 🔹

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  3. Carol

    So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend Pam…It always hurts more when it seems a senseless loss but you have your memories which will slowly take away the hurt and you will remember your special friendship 🙂 x

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  4. Hatem Kaldas

    Oh how repetitive this experience is in life. We get traumatized by this painful feelings’ mixture, hurt, angry and sad. Then, ironically or perhaps out of life kindness to our poor souls, we let go and forget the pain and life goes on. It takes time, few days may be, or few months but it is eventually stripped out of the feelings and goes to the archive.
    Wish you serenity.

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  5. christcenteredruminations

    Hello friend. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. These situations can be tough. I believe that you are a strong person and will get through this. If I may ask, do you believe in God? God is very comforting and a present help in times of need. Here is something that you should try: find a quiet place free from distractions, imagine that Jesus is in front of you, talk to him the way you will with a close friend, tell him how you feel. Invite him into your life and ask him for an outpouring of his grace and blessings. Beware of sudden distractions when you are praying, distractions are a trick used by the devil to stop people from having a focused prayer. You might also get the feeling that God is not there or that God is not listening, this is another trick used by the devil to dissuade people from prayer, do not fall for it. God is there with you and willing to listen to words that you express from the heart. When you do receive answers to your prayers, do not forget to thank God. Also try to maintain a relationship with him, keep telling him about how you feel and try to find out about him, this way he can continue to dwell with you and bless you. Good luck and God bless.

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