When did good manners become optional?
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When did good manners become optional?
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Mid-1990s if I recall correctly š
It was around 1995 when I yelled at three high school students who were standing by a door as a woman, carrying a baby and pushing a stroller was struggling to get in. I was walking toward the door, but they were right there! They did help her after I yelled.
Oh wait, was this a rhetorical question?
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You highlighted the problem beautifully! Are people nowadays born without a gene for politeness or has it been beaten out of them by aliens? It is a question that I ponder.
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I don’t think parents expect polite and helpful behavior from their kids. My dad would have looked at that scene and told me, “run up there and get the door for that woman.” Things like that, writing Thank You cards, being respectful…the list goes on.
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My parents were the same. I learned through their guidance. And I never forgot that lesson.
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The stakes were always high! I remember my mother asking, “Would it kill you to say please?”
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It might kill me if I didn’t say please if she were around. Discipline was swift.
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Seriously!
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My mother would be appalled by the antics she would see on the street. I would never get away with most of it.
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Today’s parents have no balls. And it shows in the little brats they are not raising right.
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Pam, I don’t think good manners became optional. They’re obsolete! I learned good manners by watching my parents, my dad in particular. He was not only a gentleman, he was a gentle man.
There’s not many good role models any more. And it’s not just the kids who are ill-mannered, it’s the adults. My dad used to say, “The things you dislike most in other people, especially your children, are your own worst faults.”
We need to look inside ourselves to find the road to correct this.
Ginger
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Well said Ginger. I have been noticing a very few young adults behaving properly. Maybe we’ll get lucky and they’ll start a trend.
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About the same time as fear was hidden behind our masks, and I’m not talking about the paper or cloth ones š ā¤ļø šš½ š¦ š š¤£
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Too many people have gotten really good at their masks. And I’m not talking about the paper or cloth ones.
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True…but alas, the path goes on š
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Even more pronounced in millennials and the generation now. Stomp your feet, throw a hissy fit and kids get what they want. No need for manners at all these days…sighš
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It is a sad state of affairs.
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It all begins with parents as children are innocent till ‘brought up by their folks’ and learn or have bad habits reinforced.
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Good manners? Do we even no what that is?
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My generation does.
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Yes, for sure! Peace.
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It sure seems that way.
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I live in hope that there will be a trend in the opposite direction.
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Small doses and simple steps, they’ll get us there.
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About the same time Dr Spock told parents to stop spanking their children. They mistakenly took him to me stop ādiscipliningā or teaching them proper behavior. š¤¦āāļø
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Good point! I never thought of that. I got disciplined as a child and I turned out just fine.
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When the ‘personal’ stopped being ‘political’. (not in the sense that the word ‘political’ has been corrupted by today’s ‘politics’)
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Good point.
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I like your daily quips. they get me thinking about stuff. “)
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Thank you.
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