Can Money Buy Happiness?

The quick answer is: absolutely not! The other quick answer is: Hell yes!

I live my life from the seat of a wheelchair. If money could provide a cure and allow me to walk, then I would be happy. Ergo, money bought my happiness. I am not a cheap date.

Money provides clothing, shelter and food. That contributes to happiness. But happiness is not solely dependent on financial stability. It is more personal, more complicated than mere dollars and cents.  A great many wealthy people are not happy and a great number of poor people are. Their secret? I wish I knew. But I think it has something to do with integrity. Yes, I live my life from the seat of a wheelchair but I’m also happy. I am not fabulously wealthy but I am comfortable financially. I’m able to afford rent, food, clothing. My needs are met. But I also have something else in my life that contributes to my happiness: I have friends.

There is no algorithm no mathematical formula that shows you how to maintain happiness. It is a complex combination of oneself and what is around one. Friends, environment, self-worth, all of these contribute to the blissful state of happy. And even that simple state it’s not so simple.

As many words as there are to describe a state of happiness, there are that many levels of being happy. One can be ecstatically happy, blissfully happy, mildly content; the list is endless but what is the same in each case is that it is the mind that dictates the level. Think back to that first feeling of happiness at the beginning of a love connection. The fluttering behind your heart, the butterflies in your stomach, the blush of heat that goes through your head and shoulders at the thought of someone you love. It is your brain that is controlling that response.

So then I guess money really can’t buy happiness but it can contribute to the circumstances that allow you to feel happy. Something you have to get your brain around. After all, it is in charge.

30 thoughts on “Can Money Buy Happiness?

  1. Dan Antion

    A wise man once told me, “we are each responsible for our own happiness.” It took me a long time to understand what he meant and why he shared that with me. I don’t think money can buy the happiness you describe, Pam. I think that takes people. Thanks for adding to my happiness.

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  2. Murphy's Law

    Your last paragraph says it all Pam. Being happy isn’t rare, but it can be very fleeting. That’s what makes feeling happy so precious. And like anything worthwhile, we have to work at it every day by our own actions. I’ve found that making someone else happy makes me really happy! Perfect.
    Ginger

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    1. quiall Post author

      Well said Ginger. You are right, one of the paths to happiness is to help others. More people should realize this. We would live in a different world.

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  3. Mark Lanesbury

    A great post dear lady, and wise words above from Dan. I thought I had my little ‘happy’ kingdom with a wife, children, house and reasonably well off…but the day I saw what I had never allowed myself to, I could finally see that I wasn’t happy at all. Each mountain we climb had a different and lovely view…but it never holds its place in our hearts. It isn’t until we break through that doubt of self that we will see for the first time what we actually are, and as that knowledge and understanding opens a light into that darkness, that doubt falls away and is replaced by a rarity in life. A true love and happiness we have always sought but never allowed in. We never allowed it to because we didn’t believe in us, dared not fight its weight that had ever stooped our journey. But one day in the mirror of life something will catch our eye and a hope will be born. And at its end a happiness beyond words ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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    1. quiall Post author

      You are right. And I am so sorry for your loss. The one thing you will hopefully never lose are your memories of your time together. And they are priceless.

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    2. Dale

      Money definitely cannot buy you happiness (but can at least make you comfortable in your misery). And finding happiness when you are in dire straights definitely makes it easier to get through it all. Like you, friends make a whole lot of difference…

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  4. John Hric

    Money can bring us to the edge of happiness. It is your wit, your spirit, and your excitement with life that carry you over the edge into happiness. Some of us refuse to be held back. And more importantly are determined to share. Keep excited and carry on…

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  5. joylennick

    Watching some documentaries about the ‘have-nots.’ I recall the joy on the face of a young man in India given a tiny square, earth-floored room to sleep in – which he had to share with three other young men. He had slept rough for a long time and his happiness had me in tears. It sounds a cliche, but we really are lucky if we have a roof, food and clothing…(Being in the Western world, I’m greedier than that…but I feel guilty if I have too much.) Most of my joy comes from husband,. family, friends and nature. Oh, and writing! And the odd square of dark chocolate..Hugs x. .

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  6. Dollar Queen

    What a great post! Such a complex issue. I’ve always said I don’t need to be rich, but I’d like to earn enough to pay all my expenses without worry. However, without great people in my life and somewhere safe to call home, I couldn’t be happy even with money!

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