When a problem you are facing seems to be impossible to overcome, put a lampshade on it and call it enlightenment. When your issues seem too broad, too big, to work through, put a tablecloth on them and call me for dinner. When the wall you have run into is simply too tall and too wide to breach put a nail in it, hang a painting and call it support. Problems can be surmounted, defeated or accepted. It’s your call…
When I was first diagnosed with MS, I was a wreck. I was sad, I was disheartened and I was frightened. I remember sitting in my bedroom looking out the window feeling incredibly sorry for myself, then my mother walked in. She had a look on her face that I could not read. She shook her head slowly and said: ‘you have been dealt a terrible blow; you have every right to feel sorry for yourself.’ I looked up at her. I remember her looking down at her watch taking her index finger and tapping the crystal, then she said… and I quote… “You’ve got 15 minutes, go!” She really did say that! I remember it because I have repeated the story 100 times. When I got over the shock of what she had said I started to laugh and then I realized she spoke words of incredible wisdom. Do you want to feel sorry for yourself? Sure, go ahead, do not you deny yourself the feelings of misery. Just don’t stay there too long. Now when I get depressed (little D not big D) I wallow for 15 minutes. Then I put on a weepy movie, cry my eyes out, blow my nose and move on.
I believe that every single person out there has issues. Some can’t be seen; some even can’t be felt. Mine is pretty obvious. The wheelchair is a dead giveaway. But having said that, I may be in a wheelchair but I’m not a cripple. I have a life and I live it to the full extent. Do I have issues? Hell yes! But I find a way over, around or through. If I want something, I will find a way to get it. After all I am a redhead. (OK technically I’m not actually red anymore, I’m more ash blonde. But I have the soul of the red hair!)
I really believe that life is what we make it. As that saying goes: if you’re given lemons in life make lemonade. Think about it… Some are given plenty and create nothing, some have nothing and create everything. We have it within us to be the best. But we are the only ones who can do it.