Integrity is a word understood by few and practiced infrequently.
Do Not Annoy, Dastardly Narcissistic A-hole, Damn, Nearly Away, DeoxyriboNucleic Acid .
Three little letters. Or should I say three big letters? Those three letters can make or break a criminal case in a court of law. But what do they mean to you and me, living our lives day-to-day? It comes back to the question of nature versus nurture. You hear people complaining that their DNA is the reason they are nasty or have pimples. To some extent that is correct. I had pimples as a child and it probably was because somewhere in my genetic makeup somebody had pimples. But to blame my genetic makeup for being a jerk? That I find….Irritating.
I am tired of hearing criminals blame the fact that they have committed crimes of such heinous nature as to almost be unbelievable on the fact they had a wet diaper when they were two. Scientists will tell you that a great deal of who and what we are can be traced back to our ancestors. On this I will concur. But don’t use the fact that my ancestor was a bully to colour me with the same brush. I am not my ancestor in the same way that I am not my brother or my sister. I love and admire both of them but I am an individual. I am myself. Any blame with regards to malfeasance is mine and mine alone.
Children are being raised today to blame others for their actions. I was reprimanded in seventh grade and I bear the scars to this day. Horse hockey! Or if you prefer: Bull crap! While indeed we are the product of our upbringing as well as our DNA we also have free will. Hopefully as children we were taught responsibility as well as compassion and integrity. Nurture is important but so is nature. One has the ability to supersede the other if one is lacking. Time and time again people have proven that they can rise above their less than humble beginnings or the abusive nature of their nurturing. People have the ability to be great but they have to believe and sometimes that is difficult.
Parents have the most difficult job in the world. It is their responsibility to raise children to improve society. Unfortunately sometimes they never know if they have succeeded or failed. Children also have responsibilities. We don’t always know what it is that is lacking in ourselves and in others. That’s why we need each other. We live in a world with other people. We can help one another. The more we connect, the stronger we become and the better our world will be.